The Little Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Today for a Better Life


I read a great post on the Clever Dude site the other day. It was about how a simple question could change your life.

The post was about being consistent with your goals but it got me thinking about what other little questions you could ask yourself in order to lead a better life. These are the seemingly blindingly obvious things we can often ignore for years instead of making the time to do something about them.

So, if one question could open up your mind to a better life what would it be?

Are You Really Happy?

If I can digress for a second I can tell you about the first time in my life I seriously put this question to myself. I was on a darkened overnight bus far from home heading for an unknown future. For the first time in my adult life I had no home, no job, no car and no monthly bills. Heck, I didn’t even own more than 2 pairs of socks. No one who knew me could have told you what country I was in and I was out of touch with the rest of the world. More importantly, I had absolutely nothing on my mind for the first time since I was a kid. I couldn’t get to sleep as things from my past started coming back to me. As the bus rolled along relentlessly I started to question whether I was happy now, whether I had ever been happy in the past and what mistakes I could correct in order to be happier in the future. This might be an extreme approach which I took but finding some time to ask yourself this question should be a priority for you too.

Who Are Your Financial Role Models?

I reckon that someone from a few generations ago who time travelled forward to 2013 would be amazed at how easy it is to over spend these days. Even my grandparents tell me that when they grew up you spent what you had and that was it. There were no credit cards, no easy loans and very few ways of getting yourself into big levels of debt. The problem now isn’t that it is easy to borrow money; it is that we so many people want to live a better lifestyle than they can afford. I reckon this is because we have so many bad role models now. We look at the TV and see shallow, talentless celebrities like the Kardashians, Justin Bieber, Paris Hilton and all those rap stars who are covered in bling and drive ridiculously expensive cars. I reckon that we all know deep down that the vast majority of current celebrities are basically talentless. However, they are filthy rich. If they can spend fortunes despite having no real talent then why can’t we? Instead of using these people as our role models we should ask ourselves who could give us a better example. Do you have a relative who never spends more than they can afford or is there a fictional character whose financial good sense you admire?

Is Your Spending Sustainable?

Are you spending more than you can afford? You can dress it up all the fancy financial terms you want but this simple question is the key to living a better life in the future. There is simply no way of carrying on spending more than you can afford for long without running into problems. The big problem here is that you might try and ignore the issue if you know deep down that you aren’t doing things in the right way. At some point, though, you need to sit down and ask yourself this question.

What other questions should be we all ask ourselves?

16 Responses to The Little Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Today for a Better Life

  1. Everyone could benefit from some inner reflection, that’s for sure. Another question I like to ask myself is, “What would make me happy?” paired with, “What am I doing to make that happy?” Because until you can answer what your goals are….and what you’re doing to achieve them, I figure I’ll never accomplish anything worthwhile, or be happy.

    Thanks for the mention of my post, Robert!

  2. These are great questions – like Brock said, everyone can benefit from periodically reflecting on ourselves to figure out where we are and where we want to go. It’s hard to continue making progress when you don’t question your methods from time to time! I think another question I might ask is one that sort of combines the first and the last in this post – is the stuff you’re spending money on making you happy?

  3. Krista says:

    Is this the legacy you want to leave? I ask myself this question all the time. Whether it’s making significant financial decisions, interacting with others, how I spend my time. It all comes back to how I would want to be remembered after this life is over. It’s a great question to clarify priorities and put things in perspective.

  4. I find myself asking what kind of a person I want to be and what is it I want to offer/leave behind for others?

  5. I recently asked myself if I want to be stuck in the same rut that I’m now in 2 years time – answer definitely not
    I’ve become worried that I’m going to end up as one of those 65+year olds who still HAVE to work in retirement – not if I can help it

  6. It is good to reflect on the questions you mentioned because they made me think. Therefore I ask my self what further steps do I need to take to make sure I retire without having to depend on anybody else, financially-free and with a comfortable (maybe not rich but with enough) life.

  7. I am a big believer in meditation and reflection. I view my money as a vehicle in making a life that leaves a negative mark, but allows me to live fully to my potential. Right now, that means going back to school or taking the time off of a more financially stable career to branch out.

    • Robert Bell says:

      Thanks for the comments Michelle. It is important that we all think about our lives and goals like you have done

  8. I understand a “better life” to be one where I can easily accomplish all of my life’s goals and objectives without having to worry about affording them. Taking the time to ensure that your spending is sustainable, especially over the long run, is one of the best ways to avoid a personal finance crisis in the future. Automating your savings and investment plan is a easy way to ensure that you are not overspending. Nice Post!

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